If you and your partner find that you don't agree on how to resolve your issues in marriage counseling, it is important to listen to each other's opinions and ideas and then discuss the topic as logically as possible. Communication is key in any relationship, and it is essential to give your partner the information they need instead of expecting them to know everything. The more that is not said, the greater the risk of problems. It is also important to remember that you cannot change your spouse, only yourself and your own reactions.
Changing your own behavior can make your spouse want to make changes as well. If you have had the same discussion over and over again, it may be best to say that you won't repeat the topic and leave the room. If you haven't expressed your feelings before, it is important to share how you feel with your spouse. It is also important to note that if you are in an abusive situation, it is never safe to stay in it.
It is also important to give counseling at least a year before deciding if there is hope that the marriage will continue.